4 Communication Tips to Keep the Peace With Your Ex

Interview Carol Barkes

Carol Barkes is a trend-setting mediator, business executive and educator specializing in the use of neuroscience to improve business performance, interpersonal communications, negotiation and conflict resolution processes for optimally successful results.

 

Talking Points From Carol Barkes
On Keeping the Peace With Your Ex:

 

  1. Do not expect your ex to parent the same way you do. The number one thing we know that hurts children is conflict between their parents. Know that kids play one parent against the other and don’t tell either parent the full truth. It is part of their survival mechanism. Try to keep them out of the middle and don’t look to them for a source of negative information about your ex.

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Be a LEADER and Not a BOSS: 7 Motivating Concepts

Interview Carol Barkes

Carol Barkes is a trend-setting mediator, business executive and educator specializing in the use of neuroscience to improve business performance, interpersonal communications, negotiation and conflict resolution processes for optimally successful results.

 

Talking Points From Carol Barkes
On Leadership:

1)  Leaders let their team help guide the ship.Bosses micromanage their team about how to sail.
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4 Constructive Steps When Confronting a Friend

Interview: Dr. Colleen Cira, Psy.D.

Dr. Cira has worked with hundreds of people struggling with suicidal thoughts. Unfortunately, she also had a family member commit suicide, so she understands the tragedy of this both personally and professionally.

From Dr. Colleen Cira
How to Confront a Friend:

Sometimes with our friendships, we tend to sweep things under the rug, or we complain about them to other people, but never address it with the person. Many of us struggle with conflict in our friendships because we’re just not used to it! We see our partners ALL THE TIME, we may even live

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How to STOP Mansplaining

Interview:Carol Barkes on Mansplaining.
Carol Barkes is a conflict resolution expert, mediator, national speaker, educator and bestselling author who uniquely applies neuroscience to the fields of conflict resolution and negotiations. Her expert perspective is always fresh and relevant.
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How to Stop Mansplaining:
Mansplaining, while typically refers to when a man is talking down to a woman about topics she may actually know more about, can also be used to talk about this occurrence with any person or group who has perceived authority or power over another. Understand that much of this occurs from our brains unconscious process of labeling and filing information that is similar to other instances when this event has been previously experienced.

The Brain Science Behind Gender Bias in the Workplace: Communications Explored

Interview: Carol Barkes

Some talking points for an interview on
women on gender bias in the workplace:

  • As one of the San Francisco Bay Area first female firefighters and now a woman in a still largely male dominated legal field, I regularly experience gender bias.  In fact, we all do and some of it cannot be helped.
  • Biases come in two forms extrinsic and intrinsic.  Intrinsic biases happen “under the hood” or unconsciously.  They are our brains way of filtering information that is ancestral in nature—is someone a friend or is someone a potential threat, for instance.  Extrinsic biases are consciously driven in that we choose to have them.  For instance, I choose not to hire a woman. Continue reading “The Brain Science Behind Gender Bias in the Workplace: Communications Explored”

Difficult Business Relationships: Exploring Solutions

Interview: Carol Barkes

Here’s some talking points on what Carol Barkes would say on an interview about problematic business relationships:

  • Many questions are about change management and there are some simple neuroscience techniques to make this easier for everyone.
  • Still others are about workload and fairness, which is actually the leading cause of workplace stress. Talking about this is one of the best ways to save businesses money. In fact, annually US businesses lose over $300 billion in financial resources due to stress. Continue reading “Difficult Business Relationships: Exploring Solutions”

The Neuroscience Behind Interracial Relationship Prejudice

Interview: Carol Barkes on Interracial Relationship Prejudice.

Our negative judgements on interracial relationships can be explored through our knowledge of neuroscience. Though it is very difficult to change one’s opinions once they have been formed over time through their values, there are some strategies that one can employ to minimize conflict.
Some Talking Points from Carol Barkes on 
Interracial Relationship Prejudice:

 

How to Stop Fighting Over Housework

Interview: Carol Barkes on How to Stop Fighting Over Housework.
Carol Barkes is a conflict resolution expert, mediator, national speaker, educator and bestselling author who uniquely applies neuroscience to the fields of conflict resolution and negotiations. Her expert perspective is always fresh and relevant.
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How to Stop Fighting Over Housework:
Conflict arises when two people see things differently and/or have differing expectations about the process of getting things done. Consequently, to minimize fights about chores:

1. Talk about the process before there is an issue. Who will do what chore, when and what does that chore look like? For example, in my own relationship, my husband signed on for doing the laundry. However, in my mind that meant getting it washed, dried AND put away. In his mind it meant washed, dried, and put on the living room chair to be picked through as needed. Clarifying all details of the process is key.

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5 Ways to Fine-Tune Workplace Communication

Interview: Carol Barkes on Workplace Communication.

Carol Barkes is a conflict resolution expert, mediator, national speaker, educator and bestselling author who uniquely applies neuroscience to the fields of conflict resolution and negotiations. Her expert perspective is always fresh and relevant.

Talking Points from Carol Barkes on
How to Fine-Tune Workplace Communication:

Effective communication is an integral part of having positive, successful interactions with the people around us. For some, good communication skills seems to come naturally, and that’s great. But for others, it is a challenge to communicate in a way that both articulates our thoughts and doesn’t rock the boat. Poor communication can lead to arguments, loss of opportunities, hurt feelings——and the list goes on and on. In the workplace it could mean conflicts with the people we work with and for, loss of credibility, a decrease in production, and other negative-affecting career circumstances. Here’s some tips on how to fine-tune workplace communication:

1) Conflict in the workplace is similar to family conflict in that conflicts can build over time as people have continual negative interactions with a person. Consequently, when a situation arises with someone we’ve had problems with in the past, it is very easy to blow the current problem out of proportion. It is important to try to look at each occurrence with its own lens so past experiences don’t negatively bias our approach.

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