How to Have More Compassion in a Combative World

Available for Interviews: Dr. Colleen Cira, Psy.D.

Dr. Colleen Cira, Psy.D., is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist who specializes in Women and Trauma, and has worked with hundreds of people struggling with mental health issues.

People often struggle with compassion—not only for others, but also for ourselves.  Here’s a few things we can try to build more kindness and empathy into our lives and the lives of the people who surround us:

1) Just listen. Don’t interrupt with advice, with silver linings, or with solutions. Just listen. Truly listen. Don’t think about what you’re going to say next or how they’re doing it wrong, or what they could be doing differently. Just listen and take in what they’re saying to you.

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3 Tips Before Jumping Back Into Dating After a Divorce

Available for Interviews:Carol Barkes

 

Carol Barkes, CPM, MBA, is a conflict resolution expert, mediator, national speaker, educator and bestselling author who uniquely applies neuroscience to the fields of conflict resolution and negotiations. Her expert perspective is always fresh and relevant.

 

Some Talking Points from Carol Barkes Can Say in an Interview
on Dating After Divorce:

 

1)  Work to check your intrinsic biases. Roughly 98% of our thoughts are unconsciously driven and our brains are fairly lazy seeking to conserve energy. Our brains also look for patterns. Consequently, a new person in our lives may do something that makes our brain connect the dots back to something our ex’s did and we can have an inappropriate reaction. Instead, observe your thoughts and question why you are reacting the way you are. It may have nothing to do with your present relationship.

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It’s Surprising More People Aren’t Divorced

Available for Interviews: Roger Hall.

Dr. Roger Hall has a doctorate in Counseling Psychology, is an Executive Coach to entrepreneurs and leaders, and is an in-demand public speaker throughout North America.

 

Talking Points from Roger Hall on What He Can Say in an Interview 
on Remote Work & Productivity in This New World of Business:

  • With a 54% divorce rate, people begin to worry about the quality of marriage in the world today. After learning from leading marriage expert John Gottman, I learned that I would be surprised if 54% of the marriages didn’t end in divorce.

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Couples Avoiding Fights While “Sheltering in Place”

Interview: Carol Barkes

 

Carol Barkes is a conflict resolution expert, mediator, national speaker, educator and bestselling author who uniquely applies neuroscience to the fields of conflict resolution and negotiations. Her expert perspective is always fresh and relevant.

Some Talking Points from Carol Barkes
on How Couples Can Avoid Fights During the Quarantine
:

Here are some talking points for an interview on how can communicate their feelings better when trying to overcome conflict:

1.  The first thing is to consider reframing the word “fight” to have more constructive conversations.  But if we want to use the word “fight,” then we want to figuratively put the issue on one side of the table and you, as a couple, on the other. You must remain partners in the pursuit of improving your relationship and resolving issues.

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Relationship Rules: 5 Ways to Make Your Relationship Last

Interview Carol Barkes

Carol Barkes is a trend-setting mediator, business executive and educator specializing in the use of neuroscience to improve business performance, interpersonal communications, negotiation and conflict resolution processes for optimally successful results.

Talking Points From Carol Barkes
On 5 Ways to Make Your Relationship Last:

1) Remember, our brains naturally cling to negative information more than positive information. It is due to our primal survival brain that sees negative things as threats. So . . . constructive criticism is still criticism. Talk about the matter that is frustrating you and discuss the process or how to make the situation better. Do not criticize your partner.  

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How Couples Can Fight Fair

Interview Carol Barkes

Carol Barkes is a trend-setting mediator, business executive and educator specializing in the use of neuroscience to improve business performance, interpersonal communications, negotiation and conflict resolution processes for optimally successful results.

Talking Points From Carol Barkes On How Couples
Can Communicate Better When in Disagreement
:

    • Make the conversation about the problem, not the person—criticism is not a smart approach! Instead, it is okay to voice a complaint about an action, behavior, or process. Do not criticize the person’s character and expect good results.

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Winter Mental Health Survival Tips


Interview with Dr. Colleen Cira:

Dr. Colleen Cira is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist who specializes in Women and Trauma, so she has worked with hundreds of people struggling with a family of origin issues.

Talking Points from Dr. Cira
On Holiday Survival Tips:

  • Know your limits! We all have a tendency to go on auto-pilot from time to time, especially when we’re stressed out and/or are limited on our emotional bandwidth. So wake up and check yourself! How are you feeling about spending time with your family? What can you handle? What would feel good versus simply obligatory? Once you do that, you can set yourself up for more success and Holiday happiness 🙂 Continue reading “Winter Mental Health Survival Tips”

Meeting the Parents Over the Holidays When Tension Is Expected

Interview Carol Barkes

Carol Barkes is a trend-setting mediator, business executive and educator specializing in the use of neuroscience to improve business performance, interpersonal communications, negotiation and conflict resolution processes for optimally successful results.

Talking Points From Carol Barkes On
Meeting the Parents Over the Holidays:

Our negative judgements in relationships can be explored through our knowledge of nueroscience. Though it is very difficult to change one’s opinions once they have been formed over time through their values, there are some strategies that one can employ to minimize conflict.

    1. Well over 90% of our thinking is unconsciously driven by our brain which is in the business of rapidly processing huge amounts of information and deciding if we should move towards a reward or away from a threat. Continue reading “Meeting the Parents Over the Holidays When Tension Is Expected”

4 Communication Tips to Keep the Peace With Your Ex

Interview Carol Barkes

Carol Barkes is a trend-setting mediator, business executive and educator specializing in the use of neuroscience to improve business performance, interpersonal communications, negotiation and conflict resolution processes for optimally successful results.

 

Talking Points From Carol Barkes
On Keeping the Peace With Your Ex:

 

  1. Do not expect your ex to parent the same way you do. The number one thing we know that hurts children is conflict between their parents. Know that kids play one parent against the other and don’t tell either parent the full truth. It is part of their survival mechanism. Try to keep them out of the middle and don’t look to them for a source of negative information about your ex.

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4 Constructive Steps When Confronting a Friend

Interview: Dr. Colleen Cira, Psy.D.

Dr. Cira has worked with hundreds of people struggling with suicidal thoughts. Unfortunately, she also had a family member commit suicide, so she understands the tragedy of this both personally and professionally.

From Dr. Colleen Cira
How to Confront a Friend:

Sometimes with our friendships, we tend to sweep things under the rug, or we complain about them to other people, but never address it with the person. Many of us struggle with conflict in our friendships because we’re just not used to it! We see our partners ALL THE TIME, we may even live

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