4 Constructive Steps When Confronting a Friend

Interview: Dr. Colleen Cira, Psy.D.

Dr. Cira has worked with hundreds of people struggling with suicidal thoughts. Unfortunately, she also had a family member commit suicide, so she understands the tragedy of this both personally and professionally.

From Dr. Colleen Cira
How to Confront a Friend:

Sometimes with our friendships, we tend to sweep things under the rug, or we complain about them to other people, but never address it with the person. Many of us struggle with conflict in our friendships because we’re just not used to it! We see our partners ALL THE TIME, we may even live

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How to STOP Mansplaining

Interview:Carol Barkes on Mansplaining.
Carol Barkes is a conflict resolution expert, mediator, national speaker, educator and bestselling author who uniquely applies neuroscience to the fields of conflict resolution and negotiations. Her expert perspective is always fresh and relevant.
Some Talking Points from Carol Barkes on 
How to Stop Mansplaining:
Mansplaining, while typically refers to when a man is talking down to a woman about topics she may actually know more about, can also be used to talk about this occurrence with any person or group who has perceived authority or power over another. Understand that much of this occurs from our brains unconscious process of labeling and filing information that is similar to other instances when this event has been previously experienced.

Do Passive-Aggressive Signs in Business Work?

Interview: Carol Barkes

This comes from a communications expert, Carol Barkes. Here are some talking points for an interview about passive-aggressive signs:

Our brains pay more attention to negative things than positive. It goes back to ancient times when negative things could mean death. Consequently, our brains notice and log negative messaging more than positive messaging. Unfortunately, our brains also direct us to move towards reward and away from threats.

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What You Must Know Before Starting Therapy

How to find the right therapist. . . .

According to Dr. Cira, the goodness of fit is everything.  Research is clear that the #1 determining factor in whether or not a client gets better from therapy is based on how strong their relationship is with their therapist.  If you don’t like your therapist, you’re not going to get better, regardless of how well-trained they are.

  • There are many different types of therapists and levels of training: LSW’s, LCP’s, LSCW’s, LCPC’s, Psy.D. and Ph.D.  It’s important to understand what these things mean and how they are different. Only then can you figure out what’s best for you. Continue reading “What You Must Know Before Starting Therapy”

The Best Way to Break Up With Someone

Interview: Carol Barkes

This comes from a communications expert, Carol Barkes. Here are some talking points for an interview on how to break up with someone in the best possible way:

1)  Acknowledge the positive. When relationships end, it doesn’t necessarily mean our love and feelings for the person ends, too.  We can love someone and still know the relationship is not right for each other.  With that being said, acknowledging this is and recognizing the lovely moments that brought the two of you together is a far better spin for our brains than to completely focus on the negatives.

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Using Neuroscience in Business Meetings

Interview: Carol Barkes

From Carol Barkes on
Neuroscience Tips for a Meeting
Neuroscience is an exciting field that continues to explore how people learn. Applying this kind of knowledge can benefit the future of the modern business meeting. Here are a few quick tips to consider before your next meeting:
1. Take a walk. Consider having meetings while walking or even have your team walk before a meeting. The oxygen received to the brain will improve the decision-making process.
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Baby Steps: How New Parents Can Ask for Help

Interview: Dr. Colleen Cira, Psy.D.

From Dr. Colleen Cira
On Help for New Parents:

1) Before you can tell anyone what you need, you need to KNOW what you need. A new baby can come with lots of stress for lots of reasons, so every time you notice that you’ve overwhelmed, sad or anxious, stop for a moment and consider the origin of your overwhelm. Do you feel like you could pull out all of your hair when you look at your overflowing laundry basket? Do you become overwhelmed with dread when you think about needing to find something to cook and eat? Do you want to cry every time your baby cries? Is feeding your baby a daunting task?? Only by figuring out what specifically is feeling overwhelming can you start to address it so just start to notice.
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The Brain Science Behind Gender Bias in the Workplace: Communications Explored

Interview: Carol Barkes

Some talking points for an interview on
women on gender bias in the workplace:

  • As one of the San Francisco Bay Area first female firefighters and now a woman in a still largely male dominated legal field, I regularly experience gender bias.  In fact, we all do and some of it cannot be helped.
  • Biases come in two forms extrinsic and intrinsic.  Intrinsic biases happen “under the hood” or unconsciously.  They are our brains way of filtering information that is ancestral in nature—is someone a friend or is someone a potential threat, for instance.  Extrinsic biases are consciously driven in that we choose to have them.  For instance, I choose not to hire a woman. Continue reading “The Brain Science Behind Gender Bias in the Workplace: Communications Explored”

Difficult Business Relationships: Exploring Solutions

Interview: Carol Barkes

Here’s some talking points on what Carol Barkes would say on an interview about problematic business relationships:

  • Many questions are about change management and there are some simple neuroscience techniques to make this easier for everyone.
  • Still others are about workload and fairness, which is actually the leading cause of workplace stress. Talking about this is one of the best ways to save businesses money. In fact, annually US businesses lose over $300 billion in financial resources due to stress. Continue reading “Difficult Business Relationships: Exploring Solutions”

The Neuroscience Behind Interracial Relationship Prejudice

Interview: Carol Barkes on Interracial Relationship Prejudice.

Our negative judgements on interracial relationships can be explored through our knowledge of neuroscience. Though it is very difficult to change one’s opinions once they have been formed over time through their values, there are some strategies that one can employ to minimize conflict.
Some Talking Points from Carol Barkes on 
Interracial Relationship Prejudice: