What Are Women Over 40 Asking About Sex?

Available for Interviews: Dr. Karyn Eilber

Karyn Eilber, MD, is a board-certified urologist, an associate professor of urology & OB/GYN at Cedars-Sinai Hospital in Los Angeles, and is an expert in women’s health and men & women’s sexual wellness.

What Dr. Eilber Can Say about
Older Women & Sex Topics of Interest:

Women over 40 definitely ask different questions because many have stable partners and are experiencing issues associated with perimenopause/menopause. This is because different phases in life are dependent on hormonal changes. The biggest difference between older and younger women’s sexual inquiry is women over 40 are asking how to regain/maintain their sex life during the transition to menopause, while younger women are often asking about how certain birth control measures can affect libido or how to prevent bladder infections. 

So what are women Googling when it comes to sex? ​ Generally, they are Googling the same topics they are asking when they come in for an appointment. Questions like, Why can’t I get in the mood? Why does sex hurt? Will my partner notice my bladder is falling? Why do I get a bladder infection every time I have sex? Do certain sex positions or sex toys make me prone to infections? What is a good lubricant? What is vaginal rejuvenation?  

When it comes to women over 40 and sex, women should know that it’s common to have a decrease in sex drive and even pain with intercourse because of hormonal issues, but these can all be addressed. 

Older women can still have an active sex life, but much of this depends on whether they have children and what ages they are if they have a partner, etc.  

Women in their 40s and even 50s are more confident, and with their kids becoming older (or even out of the house), it’s a great time to reconnect. These women are also often socially and financially independent, so they feel empowered to reinvent themselves and try new things. Traditional media and social media have also projected a different image of a woman who was considered “middle-aged” i.e. undesirable, and have now shown her to be sexy and attractive. 

See The Arrow’s (From AARP) Recent Article:

50 Questions Women in Their 40s Are Googling About Sex


Interview: Dr. Karyn Eilber

Karyn Eilber, MD, is a board-certified urologist with sub-specialty board certification in Female Pelvic Medicine and Reconstructive Surgery and has over 20 years of experience taking care of women’s most intimate needs. She is an Associate Professor of Urology and Obstetrics & Gynecology at Cedars-Sinai Medical Center and is the Associate Program Director for the Cedars-Sinai Urology Residency Training Program. Prior to joining Cedars-Sinai, Dr. Eilber served at the Memorial Sloan-Kettering Cancer Center’s Urology Department, where she gained extensive experience in pelvic reconstruction following cancer treatment.

​Dr. Eilber’s research focus has been in the field of urogynecology, and she has published multiple peer-reviewed manuscripts and book chapters. In addition to being a member and past president of the Los Angeles Urologic Society, Dr. Eilber is a member of the American Urological Association, the Society of Urodynamics, Female Pelvic Medicine & Urogenital reconstruction, the American Urogynecologic Society, and the Society of Women in Urology. She is also a Founding Medical Partner of Doctorpedia.

Dr. Eilber earned her bachelor’s degree in Biomedical Sciences from the University of California, Riverside, which was an accelerated 3-year premedical program that allowed her to matriculate into the University of California, Los Angeles School of Medicine (UCLA). She completed a general surgery internship, urology residency, and female pelvic medicine fellowship at UCLA. 

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