How to Be a More Outgoing People Person

 

This comes from a communications expert, Carol Barkes. Here are some talking points for an interview on how to be more outgoing:

1. Smile more. Sometimes being outgoing is really just being about being perceived as outgoing. A simple way to seem more approachable is to practice a genuine smile. This is a smile that activates the muscles around your eyes—not just your mouth. The easiest way to get one is by thinking of someone or something that brings you immense happiness and joy.  For instance, I think of the day my son was born; it was magical. This smile generates trust in the brains of those with whom you are interacting. Our brains are always assessing whether someone is a friend or a potential threat. With a genuine smile, we seem more approachable, friendly, and outgoing.

2. Be curious about others. Sometimes introverts have a hard time trying to come up with things to say. Instead, find questions to ask. One question will lead to the next—and boom! you have a conversation. People will appreciate your interest in them and find you engaging.

3. Laugh often. Laughter reduces the stress hormones. Find things to genuinely laugh at and you will find your laughter contagious.

4. Find positive things to say. Negative comments distance us from others. Instead, look for positive things to comment on. This will draw people to you more.