How to Stop Fighting Over Housework

Interview: Carol Barkes on How to Stop Fighting Over Housework.
Carol Barkes is a conflict resolution expert, mediator, national speaker, educator and bestselling author who uniquely applies neuroscience to the fields of conflict resolution and negotiations. Her expert perspective is always fresh and relevant.
Some Talking Points from Carol Barkes on 
How to Stop Fighting Over Housework:
Conflict arises when two people see things differently and/or have differing expectations about the process of getting things done. Consequently, to minimize fights about chores:

1. Talk about the process before there is an issue. Who will do what chore, when and what does that chore look like? For example, in my own relationship, my husband signed on for doing the laundry. However, in my mind that meant getting it washed, dried AND put away. In his mind it meant washed, dried, and put on the living room chair to be picked through as needed. Clarifying all details of the process is key.

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Why Women Aren’t Taking Their Antidepressants

Interview: Dr. Colleen Cira, Psy.D. on the issues surrounding women and antidepressants.

Dr. Colleen Cira is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist who specializes in Women and Trauma, so I’ve worked with hundreds of people struggling with depression and the medications that sometimes go along with it. Sometimes women have reservations about antidepressants and this prevents them from taking them regularly and as prescribed by their doctors. There are a few reasons for this:

1) There is still an enormous stigma when it comes to mental health. So someone who has taken the time to find a psychiatrist, make the appointment, go in for the intake and fill their prescription is doing a great job and is ahead of the curve!! AND they are still not immune from feeling that stigma that so many of us do when we acknowledge that we’re struggling with our mental health. So actually taking that pill might make a person, especially a woman, feel “crazy” which might get in the way of taking the medication.

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The 5 Causes of Depression and Actionable Advice

Interview: Dr. Colleen Cira, Psy.D. on The Causes of Depression.

Dr. Colleen Cira is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist who specializes in Women and Trauma, so I’ve worked with hundreds of people struggling with Depression. There can be several causes of depression with some accompanying ways to cope with this condition.

Here are some talking points for an interview exploring The Causes of Depression:

  1. Genetic/Chemical: Some of us have a genetic predisposition toward depression due to our family history (yay, genes!) which can make everything seem a little harder especially when you’re in college and have so many new things to figure out.

In this case, research is very clear that therapy and medication are the best ways to manage depression when it seems clear that there is a genetic and/or chemical component. Research has also proven that both exercise and meditation can also be incredibly helpful (possibly just as helpful if not more than medication) as they both directly address the chemical component of depression for the better.

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The Manager’s Role and How They Can Be Effective

Interview: Carol Barkes on The Manager’s Role and How They Can Be Effective.
Carol Barkes is a conflict resolution expert, mediator, national speaker, educator and bestselling author who uniquely applies neuroscience to the fields of conflict resolution and negotiations. Her expert perspective on communications in the workplace and home is always fresh and relevant.
Some Talking Points from Carol Barkes on 
The Manager’s Role:
  1. A manager will be most effective if they teach their employees to think about thinking. Instead of telling employees what to do, effective managers should walk their employees through the process of solving their own problems. By doing so, they gradually are not needed for decision making as much, thus empowering their employees and freeing up their own time for more productive endeavors.

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Signs Someone Is Emotionally Unavailable

Interview: Dr. Colleen Cira, Psy.D. Dr. Colleen Cira is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist who specializes in Women and Trauma, and has worked with hundreds of people struggling with their relationships and maladaptive relationship patterns, including emotional unavailability.

Talking Points for an interview with Dr. Cira on Emotional Unavailability:

Signs that indicate someone is emotionally unavailable:

1) Inconsistent communication. When someone is genuinely ready for a relationship, they aren’t going to play games. They are going to be honest and direct, they will make an effort to see you and they will expect you to do the same. So when someone is being inconsistent in any number of ways: taking forever to respond to you at one point, but immediately replies at another point; being vague about their level of commitment to you and the relationship; seeming to avoid certain topics, etc, something is up. Gently confront them about their inconsistencies, from a place of genuine curiosity, but if they can’t/won’t acknowledge what’s going on and talk to you about it, move on.

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Living for Today: How to Let Go of the Past

Interview: Carol Barkes on how to let go of the past.
Carol Barkes is a conflict resolution expert, mediator, national speaker, educator and bestselling author who uniquely applies neuroscience to the fields of conflict resolution and negotiations. Her expert perspective is always fresh and relevant.
Some Talking Points from Carol Barkes on 
How to Let Go of the Past:
1. Our brain embeds what we focus on. Consequently, if we stay rooted in the past, so does our brain. Instead, when you find yourself go back over the past, stop yourself and change your thinking to be future focused. We are the only animal which has the ability to observe our thoughts. Consequently, we are given a huge gift of being about to notice our thoughts. Take advantage of that.

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Back to School and Your Money

Interview Kathleen Owings.

Financial Advisor, Kathleen Owings  says Back-to-School time is the perfect time for a financial reset. It’s when our schedules get back to normal and great time to get your finances back in order.

What Kathleen can say in an interview: