Create More Love With These 5 Relationship Fixers

Available for Interviews: Dr. Colleen Cira

Colleen Cira, Psy.D, is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist who specializes in Women and Trauma, and has worked with hundreds of people struggling with mental health issues.


What Dr. Colleen Cira could say in an interview on
How You Can Improve Your Relationship

 1. Know yourself. What was your parent’s relationship like?  What are your insecurities? What makes you feel really vulnerable? If you don’t know these things and how they show up in your life, they’re going to show up in your relationship in a not so great way.

 2. Get comfy with your past. Have you been burned in a previous relationship? Have you seen your parents suffer through a miserable marriage? Have you been abused/assaulted? Though all of these things may have happened in the past, they will affect your present until they are dealt with.

 3. Master your nervous system. Heard of your fight, flight, freeze response?  If not, you need to learn about it, figure out what your triggers are, and learn how to manage them once they get activated—this way, they don’t run the show in your relationship.

 4. Fight! Research is clear that arguments in and of themselves have no bearing whatsoever on whether couples make it or not. HOW you fight makes all the difference. Learn better conflict resolution skills to manage your anger in a constructive way.

 5. Get away from your partner. If you’re together too much or don’t take some space when things get heated, chances are that you’ll lose track of who you are or say something you don’t mean. Getting time away from your partner allows you to stay grounded in YOU to be able to think about what you really want to communicate during next time you are together and ready to communicate.


Interview: Dr. Colleen Cira.

Colleen Cira, Psy.D., received both her Masters and Doctorate from The Illinois School of Professional Psychology and is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist in the State of Illinois.  She’s the Founder and Executive Director of Cira Center for Behavioral Health, PC, a boutique group practice specializing in Women and Trauma with locations in Chicago and Oak Park.

She was named one of the “Top 100 Women in Chicago Making a Difference,” by Today’s Chicago Woman. Dr. Cira is a trauma and anxiety expert, clinical supervisor, writer, speaker, consultant, activist, wife, and Mommy to two little ones.

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