When You Are Mourning a Job Loss

Dr. Colleen Cira is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist as well as the Founder and Executive Director of Cira Center for Behavioral Health, PC. She is an anxiety and trauma expert as well as a consultant, supervisor, speaker, writer, and advocate.

A few things Dr. Cira would say about mourning over a job loss:

  • Loss, even when we are the ones who decide to leave, is still an ending and involves goodbyes and letting go, all of which is challenging.
  • Leaving a job is not as simple as getting new employment.  It also possibly means ending a meaningful relationship, leaving a system and environment that we were familiar with and taking a leap into something unknown, all of which can be very difficult.
  • A loss is cumulative, meaning that the current loss (of a partner, a job, etc) rips off the scabs of the other losses in our life.  So we’re not just dealing with whatever loss is most present for us, we’re also simultaneously dealing with all of the other losses and grief that we have experienced in our life.
  • The only way to “get over” grief and loss is to MOVE THROUGH it.  Dealing with your feelings as they come is important in order to not prolong the grief.
  • It is also important to acknowledge the grief that this brings up from your past.  For instance, if you lost a partner or family member in the past, the loss of a job may cause you to think more about this past experience.  Rather than push those feelings or memories away, it’s important to let them happen and talk with someone you trust about whatever is coming up for you.


Available for Interviews: Dr. Colleen Cira

Dr. Cira practices integratively, often going back and forth between the past and the present.  She utilizes Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, and Mindfulness/Meditation to help people decrease the symptoms that brought them into treatment in the first place.  But she also believes that early life experiences profoundly shape who we are and believes that it isn’t until we fully understand how we came to be who we are that we can truly shape our own destiny.  Through the combination of insight, self-reflection and learning new skills, people can see a tremendous change in their lives.

“Therapy is based on research & science, both of which are incredibly important, but I believe that nothing is more important than feeling heard & understood without any judgment. When a strong, supportive relationship is combined with direct feedback and skill building, people change & lives improve.”

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