Carol Barkes is a trend-setting mediator, business executive and educator specializing in the use of neuroscience to improve business performance, interpersonal communications, negotiation and conflict resolution processes for optimally successful results.
Talking Points From Carol Barkes
On Keeping the Peace With Your Ex:
- Do not expect your ex to parent the same way you do. The number one thing we know that hurts children is conflict between their parents. Know that kids play one parent against the other and don’t tell either parent the full truth. It is part of their survival mechanism. Try to keep them out of the middle and don’t look to them for a source of negative information about your ex.
- Just because your marriage is ending doesn’t mean you cannot still have love and respect for your ex. You can know the relationship isn’t right, buy that doesn’t mean you have to make the other person a villain.
- Avoid blaming and attacking your ex when you communicate. Feel free to explain your perspective, but do so with respect, with as few words as possible, and without a harsh tone. Try to avoid being judgmental.
- Don’t try to win every battle. Focus on the things most important to you. Also, when you focus on those things, find the needs behind what you want rather than simply being demanding. When your ex understands why something is important to you, it is far more likely you will get what you are after.
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