5 Ways to Manage Polarized Topics Via Social Media

Available for Interviews: Carol Barkes

 

Carol Barkes, CPM, MBA, is a conflict resolution expert, mediator, national speaker, educator and bestselling author who uniquely applies neuroscience to the fields of conflict resolution and negotiations. Her expert perspective is always fresh and relevant.

 

Talking Points from Carol Barkes on what she can say in an interview
about Managing Polarized Topics Via Social Media

 

    1. Do consider your purpose. Are you just venting? Trying to make a change? Lashing out? What you post should take your purpose into consideration. If you are looking to have an honest, open dialog, posts that discredit opposing opinions with judgment and venom are unlikely to accomplish your objective.  Instead, consider asking questions. Pose your observation and be willing to consider others’ opinions – even if they differ from yours.
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Resolving Disputes Remotely in Business

Available for Interviews: Carol Barkes

 

Carol Barkes, CPM, MBA, is a conflict resolution expert, mediator, national speaker, educator and bestselling author who uniquely applies neuroscience to the fields of conflict resolution and negotiations. Her expert perspective is always fresh and relevant.

 

Talking Points from Carol Barkes on what she can say in an interview
about Resolving Disputes Remotely:
 

Mediating conflict between virtual teams is largely about the brain and our natural tendency to go negative when we cannot connect all the dots. In other words, when we are not fully involved with other team members and something goes wrong, we typically find negative reasons for the occurrence.  

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Couples Avoiding Fights While “Sheltering in Place”

Interview: Carol Barkes

 

Carol Barkes is a conflict resolution expert, mediator, national speaker, educator and bestselling author who uniquely applies neuroscience to the fields of conflict resolution and negotiations. Her expert perspective is always fresh and relevant.

Some Talking Points from Carol Barkes
on How Couples Can Avoid Fights During the Quarantine
:

Here are some talking points for an interview on how can communicate their feelings better when trying to overcome conflict:

1.  The first thing is to consider reframing the word “fight” to have more constructive conversations.  But if we want to use the word “fight,” then we want to figuratively put the issue on one side of the table and you, as a couple, on the other. You must remain partners in the pursuit of improving your relationship and resolving issues.

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How to Argue Without Being Emotional

Interview Carol Barkes

Carol Barkes is a trend-setting mediator, business executive and educator specializing in the use of neuroscience to improve business performance, interpersonal communications, negotiation and conflict resolution processes for optimally successful results.

 

Talking Points From Carol Barkes On
How to Argue Without Being Emotional:

When someone cries during a difficult conversation, it is due to a release of chemicals that activates the limbic system of their brain. This part of the brain is where our freeze, fight, or flight response is generated. The tears are just one physiological symptom of this system being activated. Others include getting red (on our chest, neck, and/or face), shaking, raised voice, talking faster, closed body language (a defense mechanism), increased blink rate, etc.

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How Couples Can Fight Fair

Interview Carol Barkes

Carol Barkes is a trend-setting mediator, business executive and educator specializing in the use of neuroscience to improve business performance, interpersonal communications, negotiation and conflict resolution processes for optimally successful results.

Talking Points From Carol Barkes On How Couples
Can Communicate Better When in Disagreement
:

    • Make the conversation about the problem, not the person—criticism is not a smart approach! Instead, it is okay to voice a complaint about an action, behavior, or process. Do not criticize the person’s character and expect good results.

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Meeting the Parents Over the Holidays When Tension Is Expected

Interview Carol Barkes

Carol Barkes is a trend-setting mediator, business executive and educator specializing in the use of neuroscience to improve business performance, interpersonal communications, negotiation and conflict resolution processes for optimally successful results.

Talking Points From Carol Barkes On
Meeting the Parents Over the Holidays:

Our negative judgements in relationships can be explored through our knowledge of nueroscience. Though it is very difficult to change one’s opinions once they have been formed over time through their values, there are some strategies that one can employ to minimize conflict.

    1. Well over 90% of our thinking is unconsciously driven by our brain which is in the business of rapidly processing huge amounts of information and deciding if we should move towards a reward or away from a threat. Continue reading “Meeting the Parents Over the Holidays When Tension Is Expected”

4 Communication Tips to Keep the Peace With Your Ex

Interview Carol Barkes

Carol Barkes is a trend-setting mediator, business executive and educator specializing in the use of neuroscience to improve business performance, interpersonal communications, negotiation and conflict resolution processes for optimally successful results.

 

Talking Points From Carol Barkes
On Keeping the Peace With Your Ex:

 

  1. Do not expect your ex to parent the same way you do. The number one thing we know that hurts children is conflict between their parents. Know that kids play one parent against the other and don’t tell either parent the full truth. It is part of their survival mechanism. Try to keep them out of the middle and don’t look to them for a source of negative information about your ex.

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4 Constructive Steps When Confronting a Friend

Interview: Dr. Colleen Cira, Psy.D.

Dr. Cira has worked with hundreds of people struggling with suicidal thoughts. Unfortunately, she also had a family member commit suicide, so she understands the tragedy of this both personally and professionally.

From Dr. Colleen Cira
How to Confront a Friend:

Sometimes with our friendships, we tend to sweep things under the rug, or we complain about them to other people, but never address it with the person. Many of us struggle with conflict in our friendships because we’re just not used to it! We see our partners ALL THE TIME, we may even live

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How to STOP Mansplaining

Interview:Carol Barkes on Mansplaining.
Carol Barkes is a conflict resolution expert, mediator, national speaker, educator and bestselling author who uniquely applies neuroscience to the fields of conflict resolution and negotiations. Her expert perspective is always fresh and relevant.
Some Talking Points from Carol Barkes on 
How to Stop Mansplaining:
Mansplaining, while typically refers to when a man is talking down to a woman about topics she may actually know more about, can also be used to talk about this occurrence with any person or group who has perceived authority or power over another. Understand that much of this occurs from our brains unconscious process of labeling and filing information that is similar to other instances when this event has been previously experienced.

The Neuroscience Behind Interracial Relationship Prejudice

Interview: Carol Barkes on Interracial Relationship Prejudice.

Our negative judgements on interracial relationships can be explored through our knowledge of neuroscience. Though it is very difficult to change one’s opinions once they have been formed over time through their values, there are some strategies that one can employ to minimize conflict.
Some Talking Points from Carol Barkes on 
Interracial Relationship Prejudice: