Relationship Rules: 5 Ways to Make Your Relationship Last

Interview Carol Barkes

Carol Barkes is a trend-setting mediator, business executive and educator specializing in the use of neuroscience to improve business performance, interpersonal communications, negotiation and conflict resolution processes for optimally successful results.

Talking Points From Carol Barkes
On 5 Ways to Make Your Relationship Last:

1) Remember, our brains naturally cling to negative information more than positive information. It is due to our primal survival brain that sees negative things as threats. So . . . constructive criticism is still criticism. Talk about the matter that is frustrating you and discuss the process or how to make the situation better. Do not criticize your partner.  

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What You Must Know Before Starting Therapy

How to find the right therapist. . . .

According to Dr. Cira, the goodness of fit is everything.  Research is clear that the #1 determining factor in whether or not a client gets better from therapy is based on how strong their relationship is with their therapist.  If you don’t like your therapist, you’re not going to get better, regardless of how well-trained they are.

  • There are many different types of therapists and levels of training: LSW’s, LCP’s, LSCW’s, LCPC’s, Psy.D. and Ph.D.  It’s important to understand what these things mean and how they are different. Only then can you figure out what’s best for you. Continue reading “What You Must Know Before Starting Therapy”

The Best Way to Break Up With Someone

Interview: Carol Barkes

This comes from a communications expert, Carol Barkes. Here are some talking points for an interview on how to break up with someone in the best possible way:

1)  Acknowledge the positive. When relationships end, it doesn’t necessarily mean our love and feelings for the person ends, too.  We can love someone and still know the relationship is not right for each other.  With that being said, acknowledging this is and recognizing the lovely moments that brought the two of you together is a far better spin for our brains than to completely focus on the negatives.

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Difficult Conversations: At Work and At Home

How to talk about difficult topics in an increasingly volatile environment.

Carol Barkes is a trend-setting mediator, business executive and educator specializing in the use of neuroscience to improve business performance, interpersonal communications, negotiation and conflict resolution processes for optimally successful results.
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