Interview Carol Barkes
Carol Barkes is a trend-setting mediator, business executive and educator specializing in the use of neuroscience to improve business performance, interpersonal communications, negotiation and conflict resolution processes for optimally successful results.
Talking Points From Carol Barkes On
4 Negotiation Takeaways From
Harry & Meghan’s Split From the Royal Family:
- Other people’s people can often make the problem worse than the original issue. We love our friends, family, and advocates for their undying support. That said, these same people can make our conflicts worse by only seeing our side and creating “evil plot twists” that make us look better at the expense of the person with whom we are having the conflict with. This tends to make matters more complicated and can skew the original points of contention. Instead, ask your supporters to stand down and leave this matter to the parties involved. Try not to triangulate the matter by talking to other people who are not involved with the situations. Stick to having conversations with the parties you are in conflict with and only seek to brainstorm with others about how to resolve them.
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It seems that men have the advantage over women when it comes to negotiation in many business situations. Here are just a few tips that can help women—or anyone, really—on how to approach these situations and be in a better position to achieve the business outcomes you are aiming for.
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- Women are less likely to negotiate than men. Women are more likely to negotiate for other people, if they do so. This being said, women need to remember that they, too, are worthy and deserve a voice for themselves. Most everything can be negotiated so why not try? At the worst, we are no worse off than before the attempt. Continue reading “How Women Can Do Better at the Negotiation Table”
1. Create a win-win. How does unpaid time off work for both you and the employer?
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Here are some practical communication strategies from our expert, Carol Barkes, MBA, CPM, on negotiation:
Remember the Acronym A.I.A:
A = Awareness: pay attention to how you are intuitively feeling. Notice if you are starting to get stressed. If you are, take some time to deep breathe (yawning is even better), stretch, tap or walk. This is all about getting oxygen to your brain and stopping the continual release of stress hormones.
I = Intentions: Remember what your intentions are for this mediation. If you want it to be collaborative, don’t take the bait if the other party throws out some competitive or judgmental statements.
A = Actions: What actions do you need to take to keep the negotiation on track?
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