5 Things a Child Custody Mediator Wishes Parents Knew

Available for Interviews: Carol Barkes

Carol Barkes is a conflict resolution expert, mediator, national speaker, educator, and bestselling author who uniquely applies neuroscience to the fields of conflict resolution and negotiations. Her expert perspective is always fresh and relevant.

What Carol Barkes can say in an interview on
the Benefits of Mediation
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 1. Leave your people at home (this includes friends, your mom or dad, new girlfriend, boyfriend, wife or husband). Of course, these people are on your side but they are often blinded by their bias for you. They are not living your stress or paying your bills so their recommendations are often short-sighted and can leave parents dealing with ramifications they had not intended. They also tend to fire up the other side. Mediators do not need character references. Save that for court if all else fails.

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How Conflict Resolution Can Work to Heal the Nation

Available for Interviews: Carol Barkes

 

Carol Barkes, CPM, MBA, is a conflict resolution expert, mediator, national speaker, educator and bestselling author who uniquely applies neuroscience to the fields of conflict resolution and negotiations. Her expert perspective is always fresh and relevant.

What Carol Barkes can say in an interview about
Healing the Nation Based on Conflict Resolution Concepts
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We have long had the thought that our capital and institution was safe from Americans but perhaps not from foreign entities. Today, we have found this not to be true and it makes us a perfect target for foreign enemies to sit back and watch us self-distrust from the inside out. This would make our forefathers roll over in their graves. We believe in the premise of United We Stand and yet we are now far from united. How can we make a better world as we fight against our brothers and sisters?

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4 Negotiation Takeaways From Harry & Meghan’s Split From the Royal Family

Interview Carol Barkes

Carol Barkes is a trend-setting mediator, business executive and educator specializing in the use of neuroscience to improve business performance, interpersonal communications, negotiation and conflict resolution processes for optimally successful results.

Talking Points From Carol Barkes On
4 Negotiation Takeaways From
Harry & Meghan’s Split From the Royal Family:

 

  1. Other people’s people can often make the problem worse than the original issue. We love our friends, family, and advocates for their undying support. That said, these same people can make our conflicts worse by only seeing our side and creating “evil plot twists” that make us look better at the expense of the person with whom we are having the conflict with. This tends to make matters more complicated and can skew the original points of contention. Instead, ask your supporters to stand down and leave this matter to the parties involved. Try not to triangulate the matter by talking to other people who are not involved with the situations. Stick to having conversations with the parties you are in conflict with and only seek to brainstorm with others about how to resolve them.

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4 Steps in Negotiating Unpaid Time Off From Work

Interview: Carol Barkes

This comes from a communications expert, Carol Barkes. Here are some talking points for an interview about negotiation unpaid time off from work:

 

  1. Create a win-win. How does unpaid time off work benefit both you and the employer?

  2. Give information about your “why.”  The more reasonable you make the request and the more information you give that help create the story about why you need the time and why it would be worth it for them to grant it, can be the game changer you need.

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How to STOP Mansplaining

Interview:Carol Barkes on Mansplaining.
Carol Barkes is a conflict resolution expert, mediator, national speaker, educator and bestselling author who uniquely applies neuroscience to the fields of conflict resolution and negotiations. Her expert perspective is always fresh and relevant.
Some Talking Points from Carol Barkes on 
How to Stop Mansplaining:
Mansplaining, while typically refers to when a man is talking down to a woman about topics she may actually know more about, can also be used to talk about this occurrence with any person or group who has perceived authority or power over another. Understand that much of this occurs from our brains unconscious process of labeling and filing information that is similar to other instances when this event has been previously experienced.

How Women Can Do Better at the Negotiation Table

It seems that men have the advantage over women when it comes to negotiation in many business situations. Here are just a few tips that can help women—or anyone, really—on how to approach these situations and be in a better position to achieve the business outcomes you are aiming for.
Carol Barkes is a conflict resolution expert who helps couples who are considering divorce.  She knows these bullets below are surefire ways to put a marriage on the path to divorce. Carol is available for interviews.
  • Women are less likely to negotiate than men. Women are more likely to negotiate for other people, if they do so.  This being said, women need to remember that they, too, are worthy and deserve a voice for themselves.  Most everything can be negotiated so why not try?  At the worst, we are no worse off than before the attempt.  Continue reading “How Women Can Do Better at the Negotiation Table”

Negotiation Tips to Succeed With Anyone

Here are some practical communication strategies from our expert, Carol Barkes, MBA, CPM, on negotiation:

Remember the Acronym A.I.A:

A = Awareness: pay attention to how you are intuitively feeling. Notice if you are starting to get stressed. If you are, take some time to deep breathe (yawning is even better), stretch, tap or walk. This is all about getting oxygen to your brain and stopping the continual release of stress hormones.
I = Intentions: Remember what your intentions are for this mediation. If you want it to be collaborative, don’t take the bait if the other party throws out some competitive or judgmental statements.
A = Actions: What actions do you need to take to keep the negotiation on track?

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