Category: Conflict Resolution

5 Things a Child Custody Mediator Wishes Parents Knew

Available for Interviews: Carol Barkes

Carol Barkes is a conflict resolution expert, mediator, national speaker, educator, and bestselling author who uniquely applies neuroscience to the fields of conflict resolution and negotiations. Her expert perspective is always fresh and relevant.

What Carol Barkes can say in an interview on
the Benefits of Mediation:

 1. Leave your people at home (this includes friends, your mom or dad, new girlfriend, boyfriend, wife or husband). Of course, these people are on your side but they are often blinded by their bias for you. They are not living your stress or paying your bills so their recommendations are often short-sighted and can leave parents dealing with ramifications they had not intended. They also tend to fire up the other side. Mediators do not need character references. Save that for court if all else fails.

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Lessons From a Top Mediator: 5 Reasons Why You Should Mediate and Not Litigate

Available for Interviews: Carol Barkes

Carol Barkes is a conflict resolution expert, mediator, national speaker, educator, and bestselling author who uniquely applies neuroscience to the fields of conflict resolution and negotiations. Her expert perspective is always fresh and relevant.

What Carol Barkes can say in an interview on
the Benefits of Mediation:

 1. You keep the power. When you mediate, you get to choose what concessions you make to move past conflict. It is the one legal process where the parties get to keep the power. The mediator may walk you through the pros and cons of your decisions, but you are the one who ultimately decides. In court, you give your power to the judge and you essentially gamble on the results.

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When Depression Comes Out as Anger: Causes and Solutions


Interview with Dr. Colleen Cira

Dr. Colleen Cira is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist who specializes in Women and Trauma, and has worked with hundreds of people struggling with mental health issues for over twenty years.

Talking Points from Dr. Cira
On Anger & Depression:

Why do people suffering from depression often get angry?

  • Being depressed zaps our energy and makes everything seem harder, including thinking and feeling. Essentially, someone who is depressed has very limited emotional bandwidth.
  • If you’re low on energy and patience, everything is going to seem like a chore, including interacting with people. Every last bit of energy you do have is going inward, just trying to put one foot in front of another, so that’s a lot less energy you have to be kind, thoughtful, or empathic.

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Smooth Travel Tips Post COVID

Available for Interviews: Carol Barkes

Carol Barkes is a conflict resolution expert, mediator, national speaker, educator and bestselling author who uniquely applies neuroscience to the fields of conflict resolution and negotiations. Her expert perspective is always fresh and relevant.

What Carol Barkes can say in an interview about Traveling Post COVID:

    •  Remember everyone is tense right now.  Travel personnel has been largely out of business for a while and the new increase in business means there is a lot to learn and get reacquainted with. Likewise, the new rules are stressful to travelers so everyone has flight-fight-freeze reactions more regularly. 

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5 Ways to Best Reconcile After an Argument

Available for Interviews: Carol Barkes

Carol Barkes is a conflict resolution expert, mediator, national speaker, educator and bestselling author who uniquely applies neuroscience to the fields of conflict resolution and negotiations. Her expert perspective is always fresh and relevant.

What Carol Barkes can say in an interview about Reconciliation:

The past year was fraught with anger, hostility, and dissension. How can we come together after a fight? Reconciling after an argument is largely a byproduct of a combination of techniques and skill development.  After mediating 1000’s of cases with disputing parties, Carol Barkes is certain about the following:

1)  There is no such thing as constructive criticism.  It is just criticism. Instead, try using a complaint that is focused on the problem rather than criticism of what the other person did.  This makes it less personal and puts the two parties on the same side of the table with the conflict on the other side.

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How Buckingham Palace Should Respond to Oprah Interview to Restore Peaceful Relations

Available for Interviews: Carol Barkes

Carol Barkes, CPM, MBA, is a conflict resolution expert, mediator, national speaker, educator and bestselling author who uniquely applies neuroscience to the fields of conflict resolution and negotiations. Her expert perspective is always fresh and relevant.

What Carol Barkes could say in an interview
on the Meghan  Markle & Prince Harry Interview:

    •  When dealing with family matters that become public, emotions and stakes are especially high. This means responses must be both kind and politically corrected in order to preserve both fronts. Consequently, Buckingham Palace should release statements of solidarity and empathy.

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Child Custody: How To Move Forward After Estrangement

Available for Interviews: Carol Barkes

Carol Barkes, CPM, MBA, is a conflict resolution expert, mediator, national speaker, educator and bestselling author who uniquely applies neuroscience to the fields of conflict resolution and negotiations. Her expert perspective is always fresh and relevant.

What Carol Barkes could say in an interview
about Estrangement:

As a certified professional mediator specializing in child custody and bestselling author, Carol Barkes deals with topics like this daily and also lives this reality with her 18-year-old son.
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3 Ways on How to Avoid Awkward Conversations in Business and in Life

Available for Interviews: Carol Barkes

 

Carol Barkes, CPM, MBA, is a conflict resolution expert, mediator, national speaker, educator and bestselling author who uniquely applies neuroscience to the fields of conflict resolution and negotiations. Her expert perspective is always fresh and relevant.

 

Talking Points from Carol Barkes on what she can say in an interview
on 3 Ways on How to Avoid Awkward Conversations:

1) Listen more

People spend too much time thinking about themselves versus being present in the conversation. Conversations flow much better when one tries to cease thinking of what to say or how they will be perceived, and instead, focus on really hearing the other person. We tend to listen with a response in mind. We will be less anxious if we wait to truly hear the other person and formulate the next right thing to say based on what THEY said. Make it about them.

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Asian-American Bias/Violence: Dr. Alice Fong Offers 5 Steps to Create More Harmony

Available for Interviews: Dr. Alice Fong

Alice Fong, ND, is an integrative naturopathic doctor specializing in stress, integrative medicine, diet & weight loss, and is a business growth consultant for holistic healthcare providers.

What Dr. Alice Fong can say in an interview
Asian-American Bias/Violence:

“Sometimes people express themselves with unknowingly racist comments or actions. We need to develop a greater cultural competency.”

Most of the time, racist words or actions are seemingly harmless, are just simply annoying, but ignoring the smaller issues can lead to division, greater misunderstandings—and larger issues that don’t get addressed can cause significant harm and distress. It should not be ignored that a significantly higher number of Anti-Asian hate incidents have occurred since the onset of the pandemic.  When it gets to the point where Asians and Asian Americans are treated ‘less than’ human and thousands of anti-Asian attacks have occurred across the country within the past year, it’s time to bring awareness and take action.

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7 Steps to Better Anger Management

Available for Interviews: Carol Barkes

 

Carol Barkes, CPM, MBA, is a conflict resolution expert, mediator, national speaker, educator and bestselling author who uniquely applies neuroscience to the fields of conflict resolution and negotiations. Her expert perspective is always fresh and relevant.

 

Talking Points from Carol Barkes on what she can say in an interview
about How to Manage Your Anger:
 

1) Explore the root of your anger. Anger is a secondary emotion in that there are other emotions that manifest as anger. It can be especially helpful to explore the underlying emotions that are leading to anger as they provide insight into what is the root issue. It can also be helpful as these underlying emotions pave the way to a better understanding of your feelings by giving you more adjectives to use. For instance, you might be frustrated, sad, or feel that you have been treated unfairly, feel that you have no power, etc. When you can use more words to express yourself rather than that you are just angry, it not only feels better but it helps others understand you better.

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